The Grief Garden: Meet the Companions of Your Healing Journey
- Karen Bulinski Mathison
- Sep 26
- 3 min read
Grief isn't a solitary experience. It's a landscape populated by complex characters, each playing a crucial role in your healing - some loud, some quiet, some comforting, some challenging. Welcome to the Grief Garden, where every emotion has a voice, and no feeling is ever truly alone.
The Darker Chirpers: Acknowledging the Challenging Companions
Denial the Chameleon
Soft-spoken but persistent, Denial blends into your surroundings, helping you survive those first impossible moments. He doesn't hide the truth - he helps you process it in manageable doses. Sometimes, Denial is the protective layer that keeps you functioning when the world feels too overwhelming.
Guilt and Regret: The Persistent Whispers
These companions lurk in the shadows of your grief landscape. Guilt, the Snake, slithers through your thoughts, hissing and coiling around memories, reminding you of your humanity and the depth of your love. Regret, the Toad, sits heavily on the path, a persistent presence that weighs down your steps, showing you where you're still processing, still healing. They're not villains, but messengers. They surface most strongly after moments of disenfranchised grief - those losses society doesn't validate.
The Lighter Companions: Beacons of Hope
Hope the Ladybug
Small but mighty, Hope flutters between the darker spaces, bringing tiny sparks of light. She doesn't promise that everything will be okay, but she whispers that you have the strength to face whatever comes.
Love the Dragonfly
Iridescent and resilient, Love hovers just beyond your immediate vision. She reminds you that the love you've experienced doesn't end with loss - it transforms, it continues, it finds new ways to exist.
Faith the Butterfly
Emerging from the most challenging chrysalis, Faith represents transformation. She doesn't promise an easy journey, but she proves that beauty can emerge from the most difficult experiences.

The Steady Companions: Strength in Quiet Moments
Persistence the Fox
Cunning and determined, Persistence walks beside you on the hardest days. When you feel you can't take another step, he reminds you that healing isn't about speed - it's about continuing to move forward, no matter how slowly.
Resilience the Cardinal
Bright and unmistakable, Resilience brings color to your grief landscape. She doesn't minimize your pain but shows you that your capacity to heal is always greater than your capacity to hurt.
Acceptance the Owl
Silent and observant, Acceptance, the Owl, glides through the grief landscape with remarkable precision. Her wings cut through confusion, her keen eyes seeing what others cannot. Unlike other companions who might flutter or slither, she moves with deliberate grace, offering perspective that comes from seeing the entire terrain at once. She doesn't rush your healing, but perches nearby, waiting for the moment when understanding dawns naturally. Her wisdom is not about forcing resolution, but about helping you see your journey from a higher vantage point.
Reality the Moth
Often misunderstood, Reality brings gentle illumination. She doesn't harsh your pain but helps you see your experience clearly, without the fog of denial or the darkness of despair.
The Companions Between Companions
What makes the Grief Garden so powerful is that these characters don't exist in isolation. They move, they shift, they interact. Some days, Persistence, the Fox, might walk hand-in-hand with Resilience, the Cardinal. Other days, Guilt might be shadowed by Hope, showing you that even in your most challenging moments, healing is possible.
Your Unique Grief Landscape
Every grief journey is different. Your Grief Garden will look unique - with different characters showing up at different times, in different intensities. Some might be loud, some might be whispers. Some might feel like burdens, while others feel like gentle support.
The magic isn't in controlling these companions, but in learning to walk with them. To understand that each emotion, each character, has something to teach you about love, loss, and the incredible resilience of the human heart.
An Invitation to Explore
The Grief Garden isn't about eliminating pain. It's about understanding that pain is a natural part of love. It's about recognizing that every emotion has a place, a purpose, a voice.
In the coming months, we'll be introducing the full Grief Garden series - books, characters, resources that help you understand and navigate your unique grief landscape. Because your grief deserves to be seen, heard, and honored - in all its complexity.
Welcome to the Grief Garden. Your healing journey starts here.







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